I wanted you to start having a little self-respect and demanding the same from Kevin. I didn't want you to put up with his crap anymore but that doesn't mean throwing the baby out with the bath water.
You are looking for the one thing one of us says to you that will justify (in your mind) you giving up on Kevin so you can start running the roads in search of his replacement which, by the way, will be a carbon copy of him.
It's a simple process and a win-win situation. Let him go (that does not mean you stop "standing"). GET A LIFE. Work ON YOURSELF.
If you do those things, you can't lose.
If he comes back and you live happily ever after, you've won. If he doesn't, but you have grown and learned from the experience and dealt with your own demons, well you've STILL won.
And you won't end up repeating the same mistakes all over again.
If you stop now, you will do JUST THAT.
And then don't you know your girls are going to grow up and be just like Mommy?
Is that okay with you?!
Look at yourself honestly right now Emily and tell me it's okay for your girls to be just like you when they grow up...
Is that what you want?
Because that's what you're going to get.
This is not me being judgmental either.
I've stood in the mirror and asked myself that same question about my little girl and my answer was a resounding NO!
My answer quite truthfully is STILL a resounding NO but I know one thing, my kids make me want to be a better, stronger, smarter person that makes better decisions and they are the reason I'll do the grunt work to get there.
Yeah, we SHOULD have had it all together before we had kids but if we'd waited for that most of us would still be childless.
Do what you're going to do.
But I'll be damned if you're gonna use MY words to justify being a coward.
