My Mt. Everest . . .

[StevieRay13]

But I don't see a point in waiting around on my H.
The way I see it . . he made his choice 8 months almost 9 now when he chose to kick me out to be with her.
They are all but married now. Living and breathing each other as life now. WHY should I continue to sit in limbo when he's made his decision.

I tell you why. Can't you see that what you are saying is contradicting yourself? I mean if he has really made his choice why hasn't he divorced you? I mean in 8-9 months that is plenty of time to a least be 3/4 way through a D, or at least 1/2 way. So, the reason you sit in limbo it to make that SOB actually make the decision. Why do you want to be the one to step up and let him off the hook for recking your M? I look at it like if he is big enough to cause all the heck, then he can be the one to step up and face the music. To face that he divorced you so he could be with OP.

I'm at the point where I'm not going to let my W off the hook. I feel like if she is big enough to go and sleep with OM and wreck our M, then she can be big enough to push for a D. Only difference is that I'm at the 4 month mark. I'm not going to let it slow down my GAL activities and even if we got back together that won't stop the either. I just look at it like I'm going to be who I am whether I'm married or not.