If your needs are sex and only sex (and I don't believe they are based on your earlier posts), then you are in trouble. Sex may be a need, but it is not a need like any other. It requires that your relationship be on a very firm footing wrt trust, affection, and general feelings of love. Why do you think in our culture like many others sex is put on a pedestal, in which only those committed to each other in some long term way is it permissable? Why do you think rape is considered to be such a horrible crime? It is because sex requires a dropping of the guard in a way like nothing else. We all have walls, built up by the hardships of life. To let your wall down low enough to have sex can require a lot from a person. So, sex in most cases WILL be the last need met. In an ideal world, with no walls and everybody doing the "right thing", sex could be just like any other need. And in a good relationship it can be. But this isn't an ideal world, so you have two choices ... figure out how to live in it, or be bitter the rest of your life.
I wish I had a magic wand that would make things good in your M CeMar. You seem like a nice guy just caught in the bear-trap of a marriage with little or no intimacy, which could have little to do with you and just be caused mostly by internal problems with your W. Sometimes life hurts, really bad, for a really long time. Try to have faith that things can get better and hope for the best.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
