Quote: I guess my point is, try to take your focus off the sex, focus on intimate communication, especially the listening. Grow your closeness that way, and the sex will likely follow.
I have a problem with this. What I am seeing is that LD people expect intimate communication first, and the sex is the RESULT of intimacy. What they don't understand is that sex IS AN EMOTION, IT IS INTIMACY. I know that my wife does not see sex as an emotion, she sees it just as physical pleasure, she sees it as sex, she totally does not understand the concept of making love. She thinks the goal is to orgasam.
In order for the relationship to work, here is what I think must happen:
The MAN must focus solely on intimate communication, weather this is words, quality time, acts of service, something NON-PHYSCIAL that meets the love language of the LD woman.
THe WOMAN must focus SOLELY on physical intimacy, 24/7. She must be able to express love NON-VERBALLY, using ONLY body language. This means lots of sex, and lots on non-sexual touching. This means that they will have to LOVE sex, they will have to have DESIRE, because body language can NOT be faked. And it is ALL about the body langauge. And believe me, most LD people do nothing but create NEGATIVE body language.
