Funny, MrsGGB and I were both raised Catholic, but in different archdiocese. Comparing notes on what we carried away we both came to the conclusion that the Church does a pretty piss poor job teaching the doctrine. MrsGGB was adamant that sex was just for procreation. I even bought into it, and it wasn't until someone here directed me to the Chris West book that I knew anything different. I've learned more about my religion in the past two years than I did in the previous 42. The point is, just because you were raised Catholic doesn't mean you really know the Catholic viewpoint. I've been pleasantly surprised on a number of occasions as I've dug into what the church really says and the reasons behind the teachings.
As far as the communication goes, it isn't just talking, it is a sharing of feelings to the point that you let down your defenses and commit to understanding what your partner is feeling. Those are key ingredients, and without them I know we wouldn't have made any progress at all. It was the key to getting our R back on track, and I doubt any thing else would have had much effect....nothing else worked including talking in the 18 years of marriage before this breakthrough. Look back over my threads if you want a history. You'll find that when I joined this board I had one foot out the door. I went to WWME as one last shot so that I could say that I'd tried everything, and doggone it, it worked! It is coming up on 2 years now since the WWME weekend, and the difference in our R is night and day. Still plenty of room to improve, mind you, but light years better than what it had been.
