I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Methinks I sense some aggression towards Ms.Hdog....
Thanks for the laugh, GEL. That was classic.
Cally: I know, I know.... I was talking with my C yesterday and explaining how W gets her complaints aired whenever she wants, because she doesn't stew on them. I don't bring my complaints up when she does hers because mine just get minimized or she says, "It's always about you" or some other crap, or it just seems unfair, as if I've been storing the complaints up to unleash them in my defense.
So when do I bring up my complaints? Basically, never. Why would I want to rock the boat when we're actually getting along by letting her know my latest complaint? I actually enjoy the peace, the lack of conflict.
And yes, I know the answer to that is, "if not now, when?" It's all about comfort zones. I need to get out of mine.
I am not a robot, btw. I am a cybernetic organism.
The question is then are you just skin covering a metallic skeleton, or are you liquid metal?
I think you very concisely described what Corri mentioned earlier. FEAR is what drives us to do things we shouldn't and exist in situations that we really deep down don't want to be in. I personally can see how my fears have gotten me where I am. I have been afraid to fully commit to my W because I am unsure whether she will respond, given our history. Could this be the common thread that is driving all of our situations, fear of true intimacy? Some of us respond by insulating ourselves through conflict avoidance or becoming "LD." Others respond through extreme anger. A few of us respond by seeking a temporary fix outside the M where if you get rejected it is easier to rationalize your failure. Could it be that many of the HD people on this board, even though we desire intimacy more than just about anything else, are being held back by our OWN fear of intimacy, of doing what is necessary to acheive that intimacy. Or is my brain just vomiting random thoughts today?
Chrome
p.s. Now I am wondering who you were sent back in time to kill
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Quote: This is not about SEX, this is about sexual fulfilment which is WAY beyond just sex. We tend to put too much focus on just the orgasam. In good sex, sex is about EVERYTHING. Most importantly, sex is communication between two people. It is an incredible mind game. What I am trying to say is that most of the important aspects of sex can NOT be experienced when going solo. It is the WHY you have sex that is truly important, not the HOW you have sex. In true passionate sex, it is a deeply emotional experience, it is crucial to well being, and it can not be acheived in any other way. In effect, there is no substitute for it.
I really want to put this in the body of one of my blog posts, and am trying to find ShortChanged to ask permission. It was posted on this thread so I'm hunting SC down here, and hoping to get permission. Sorry to hijack, there are just some really great points from posters here that speak to me, and I want to boil them all down into one blog post. Thanx! SC, if you find this post, please email me at instepford (at) gmail.com
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
Well, hell, Hairdog, I have one of your quotes on my list of "get permission from" for the blog. Nobody has their emails accessible, nor can I PM anyone here, so I'm hijacking this thread as a parttime job today. My apologies.
Quote: What I am "missing" is about much more than friction + time = orgasm.
Wanted to ask permission to use that good and concise thought from yourself please sir? Again, please email me at instepford (at) gmail.com
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
FCUK! Who knew that THIS ONE THREAD had all my favorite angst-filled quotes from the sages here? Mojo, I'd like to use an altered version of this as well, please:
Quote: REPEAT AFTER ME (and Corri): I will not stay in a sexless marriage. I understand that sex within marriage is not important to you but it is important to ME. If you want to remain married to ME, you must make sex within marriage a priority. This is a serious problem which will deeply damage our marriage the longer we delay in solving it. We must come to an agreement about including sex in our marriage on a regular basis by ______________ or I shall take (some first step towards breaking our marital or emotional ties.). Love,
See my above posts to email me re: using this content in a larger blog post. Sorry for the hijack of this -apparently!- fantastic quotefilled thread. I'm finished, I promise. Carry on.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
