IA and OG, you both have some great points and I have mulling them over before this posting.
IA, you asked what kind of life or marriage I want. Well it certainly isnt like this and she was not like this when we married or I certainly would not have made that kind of commitment. I took my vows seriously and completely, apparently hers was a facade.
Also understand she left our son and myself when he was 2 1/2 (physically) but emotionally when he was 1 1/2. She went on a heavy pot and alcohol bing for the next 2 years and did not have much input in his life.
OG - I will admit i have LD and there are ways around that, however I will not step outside the marriage till it is finalized, it simply is not worth the pain and anquish to end a marriage over a piece.
As far as counseling goes, I am all for it and want to make it healthier, i have gone to many sessions solo. So, I can say I have fixed my weaknesses and realize through growth what a healthy marriage would take and that is what I want out of this one. However when the other party has a different agenda then what is one to do, or for that matter why pursue it?
She wants all the comforts and security of marriage when it doesnt interfere with her agenda.
For me its all or nothing.
I am in concert with lawyers at this point so I know what paths I have to take and what rights I do have with regards to our son.
She says she wants sole custody but then later backs off when she gets overwhelmed with the responsibility, for me I would welcome it and give our son what he needs and that is not a mother who has alcohol issues (not in front of him) and other issues. Of course she thinks she has none and will deny all.
Convienient Parenting and Convienient Marriage is what she is looking for and it just doesnt work that way.
