Re. HunterFox:
she has no desire to have sex, at least with me. Well, you are one step ahead of some guys. Some guys in your situation, label their W as having no sex drive (SD). You at least know the lack SD is with you. Ouch! But at least you know the truth and recognize it for what it's worth.
so why should she have sex with (me) when she can get it anywhere (and probably has, most likely when she goes to the bar on Sat nights).
If she doesn't want you and "IS" getting her wants/needs met outside the M, Why do you keep settling for fumes of a M. I would be gone. You can't make someone like you. The more you try, the less they like you.
But she wants to remain friends only Like, maybe a Christmas card every 5 years?
She says she needs to get needs met but not with me, her husband of 10 years. Heavy duty counseling for X months then it's hit the road if things don't work.
HunterFox, from the little I have read, you are hurting yourself and her too maybe.
Do you have Kids? Why do you hang on, excluding "but I love her" or, she is the most gorgeous woman I have ever been with.
Pretend everyone is a used car. Pretend you are going to go be a monk and are only allowed to have one set of clothing and a tooth brush in a week. Tell me why I should buy your W. Tell me how I won't get burned or won't have buyers remorse in a couple of years.
What did you do or neglect to do over the past 10 years that has your W going out and getting her needs met by other people?
