Thanx for posting Spitfire, I've been on Infidelity forum and gotten a lot of help there - so much help that W's A's is not even an issue.
I thought a lot about were to start a new thread and finally decided the wisdom, experience, advice and kind words (and even not so kind) from the people in this forum is what I needed.
I think you are mostly correct about the purpose of this forum - for couples ready to work on the M problems, but I don't think they necessarily need to be on the same page, just ready to work. Your reply did help me realize I tried to encapsulate the year of progress we've made in a single sentence.
Up until yesterday, our R has steadily improved. W has started participating in my hobby as a wrestling official. We've gone on trips together. We've had great R talks and even started wearing our wedding bands, at W's request.
There are some radical mood swings - through counselling we have learned that most of these are a result of a "trigger" that sets off W's latent rage about her childhood. Most recently, my sister came home to live in the upstairs of my mother's and father's home. Just my mother making preperations for her daughter to come home set W off because "W doesn't have a mother or father that care about her."
So anyway, although my situation is dark and dreary right now, I am confident that if I do the right things, after Monday this will be the right forum and any prayers, comments and encouragements until I can post good news will be appreciated. If things continue to go down hill after Monday, I'll move to an appropriate forum.
I did post first in the prayer circle, prayer request but didn't want to list all the gory details of my day there.
