Often when one person is seemingly blatanty disregarding your needs....they have needs of their own that are going unmet. So you find yourself at polar ends of issues...where you both seem to have the perspective that the other isn't doing what you'd like in the R. It becomes a vicious cycle at this point and the R can spiral downward and the two of you move in that vicious cycle in ever widening circles....away from each other.
I agree with Honeypot...counseling is a must right now for you two. I'm going to just take it a step further though and ask you to dig really deep and think about things that she might need of you that perhaps you don't do. What are things you did when the two of you were dating, that you no longer do...you know, the things she seemed to appreciate. I'm not asking you to do this as a way to say..."this is your fault", not at all. I'm merely suggesting this as a starting point....because we all have to have some place to start right, and well...since you're here....you're elected There's a good chance that if you can figure out (and you might even try asking her point-blank) what she's missing in the R...and then try to fill that void for her, that she'll start responding to you too.
There's a good chance that if you can figure out (and you might even try asking her point-blank) what she's missing in the R...and then try to fill that void for her, that she'll start responding to you too.