I give up. My life is a shambles. HD male here stuck, at least for the time being, in an SSM. For over 11 years now I have tried everything to make our marriage work, but it's been a completely one-sided effort. My wife is not only LD, she doesn't care at all that our divergent needs are causing problems in our marriage-rather, she considers the problems to be mine. Her idea of solving the problem is for me to simply get over it. Divorce sounds like a dream, but we've got 2 young children who would be devestated. I guess I just have to face the fact that the only value my life has is as a breadwinner and father. Our situation has caused me such depression, that I no longer care about anything, I'm closing myself off from friends, my job performance is suffering...please don't suggest counseling, I've tried it, we've tried it together, and by now, we've reached the end of our resources, or the resources of our geographical area. The first two thoughts I have every morning upon awakening are "damn, I lived through the night", and "good thing though, there isn't any life insurance." I don't expect any help here, your good intentions notwithstanding...I'm just running out of places to scream.
