Is it unfair to take the sex back?

[74Kim]

Kasiopeia,
thank you so much for you insight. H and I are fully committed to having this work out. I told him,the other day, that I just wish I could talk to some one with a "success" story. I get alot from others here, but mostly everyone is in the same process as myself. (I still appreciate everyones insight,and love hearing from you all) It is reassuring to chat with someone who can shed some light on how to get past certain things.

Its so hard to get past that I stopped mattering to him. I feel the past 10 years of our life meant nothing to him. I can not look at anything in our past and feel happy about sharing that with him. Even the births of all our children. Yes it makes me happy to of had them, but not happy that we shared that together and it meant nothing to him. Get what I am sayin? Did you feel that way? Do those thoughts subside? It was like our life together was very satisfying for both of us until 9 mos ago. The 2nd set of twins came and that is where the chaos began. then the A started 5 mos later. Lasted3-4 mos. Now is completley over. It is like just a block of our lives got screwed up. and now putting my hurt feelings aside for a moment. We are better than ever. I know every sitch is different, but for you; When you and you H were mending things was he great, in his actions? Really proving a change? If so, other than this thing your upset about now; Is he still great? Maybe none of these Q refer to you. But for me, My H is being wonderful. I am waiting for that to end. Waiting for him to blow up.

As for sex he is completley going with the way I feel each time it comes up. I feel so good that w/ time the visuals will subside. It is sickening to me as while he thinks he is making love to me, I have visions of her in OUR intimacy. I have told him about this, and he is very compassionate toward my feelings. Time usually goes fast for everything else, but I am sure this will last a little too long.

Thanks!
I will read your post on the newcomers.