Hi, I posted on newcomers earlier,i don't guess i really have a problem now ,so maybe i can be of some help to someone else.My H had an PA 6 years ago in 2000,with a co-worker.We went to counseling and stayed together.We are still together.I have days when i think back to all the pain,but for the most part it is good now.Counseling really helped, but TIME is the healer.The longer you can stay together and your S is trying to show you that he is sorry and won't do it again then you begin to trust again.It never fully leaves ,though, and i don't think our R will be the same ever.That can be a good thing though because the R had a flaw before that helped the A along.I am smarter and not as naive now .He knows i won't go through it again.As far as sex,it will get to where you don't think of OW & his A.At least that is what i did.It was bad,i hated it,but like you i didn't want him going without for fear of him straying again.Time does make it much better.Me & my H are doing good.I got upset recently over someting stupid he did.Read my post on newcomers.I am just not being naive this time.Hope things get better soon for you,God Bless,K
