Is it unfair to take the sex back?

[74Kim]

No really, I am looking forward to going to therapy. I wanted us to go before these problems had started. Just to figure out how to deal with the stress from all these twins. He agreed then. I was the one that let the appt slip by.....Boy, am I sorry now.

He says the right things, he does the right things. I think he is genuinely sorry for his actions. I always tell him, that his actions are louder than words. So today I was feeling really bad, because he really hasnt said how sorry he was. But he stated that an apology isnt strong enough words for what he feels. He said an apology is for stepping on some ones toe. I told him he was right, but he did step on my heart and it would be nice to just hear the words. He apologized for not apologizing.
He keeps telling me how grateful he is to me for not throwing him out. I keep asking him is that what you wanted me to do. He says "no". I know that people make mistakes. And "most" men are just plain right dummies! No offense, In my opinion. Everyone is entitled to one mistake. But I do know in my heart if it would ever happen again, I could never ever forgive him . Or continue a damaging relationship. My children will eventually learn forgiveness, but they will not learn how to be walked over!