It's not black or white. Initially you "gave in" because you felt it the right thing to do. Now you realize, for yourself, you need more time to truly enjoy the experience again. A loving and remorseful H will understand this. Don't put your feelings and needs on the backburner or you are telling him that he can to. Discuss it with him in an honest and caring way. He needs to know what's happening with you too. I know it feels harder to say "I thought it would be OK, but I realize it's not yet" but it is the right thing to do. Take care of yourself. Just my two cents!
