Quote: So what I am saying is that when you start this strategy, you are going to hate it, and yes the sex is not going to be very good.
Why would the sex not be very good? Just because I made a "mental" decision to do this doesn't mean I wasn't into it. And even now we have all different kinds of sex; some just fun & quick, some slow & intimate, some crazy & risky, some because I want it, some because H wants it. It's not always that deep emotional connection. And hate it? I didn't hate it, EVER!EVER!EVER! Sometimes I wasn't in the mood (but I allowed H to help with that), sometimes I was very tired, sometimes I was unsure, not confident, sometimes I felt fat and unattractive... I could go on and on but I think you get the picture. There were a lot of emotions but never hate or I wouldn't have participated at all. If you think your w hates sex you really have a problem and I don't mean you personally I mean your M/R has a major problem. IMHO theres a big difference between hating it and not having desire or not being in the mood. NR
