Quote: I am not sure that a LD women can be attracted to a man that would actually STAY married to them. They KNOW that they treat their men poorly, so how could they be attracted to a man that would actually STAY Married to them.
I agree. Stop letting them treat you so poorly. Start with ALL the other things besides sex if it is really bad.
Drop the rope of all your fear rationalizations for why you let them treat you that way. It starts with the very small things of HOW they speak to you, HOW they ignore you.
ex. You> Its unacceptable for you to speak to me (or fill in the blank) like that. Her> Fine lets get a Divorce. You> Thats your choice. (completely dismiss it as relevant to you emotionally thus negating its power) I dont want a Divorce, but I will not tolerate you speaking to me like that anymore. (bringing it back on point, controlling the frame, not allowing the deflection) Do you understand? her> who do you think your talking too (escalation, testing, worse case scenario) you> (just look at her. ---then go somewhere quiet to regain all your lost energy from the conflict )
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