*SIGH* If you think your chances of leaving are 95% once the kids are out, why don't you just leave now and spare yourself and your kids a lot of pain? Nothing is going to improve as long as you have one foot out the door. You can't commit to making the marriage better if you're also working on an exit strategy. If you are so unhappy with your M that you know you will eventually leave, don't you think the kids can sense all is not well in wonderland? Take a stand one way or another and be a man. You are coming across as a rather spineless wet noodle. No wonder she's not attracted to you.
