Just thought I might chime in my own original thread...
CeMar, I am definitely in your corner, just don't want to lose my hope.
Heard a sad story today. Married couple of 20+ years are going to get a divorce. She is an unique personality, tends to be egocentric and demanding, however, became this way after going through and surviving breast cancer. All of the meds and chemo have pretty much killed her sex drive as well for the last 5 years.
He just can't take it anymore...yada yada. She has changed and is not the same person he married etc...
Not sure what my point and not being judgemental, but here is my thought.
A lot of the stories here are around a common theme. (Actually there are a lot of common themes) But one of my pet theories is that most people here (or elsewhere) don't change until there is a change in their life's perspective. Unfortunately, that perspective is death, a traumatic event, or divorce in the majority of cases.
It is my mission and hope that I can introduce that change in perspective to my wife WITHOUT dying, or a traumatic life event, or getting a divorce
So to the participants of these thread and anyone else reading, share with me this...Have you gone from LD to HD without a "change in perspective"
GEL, it seems like for you there was one. CeMar, my advice to you is patience. You never know what might trigger a "change in perspective." But hopefully it is not a traumatic one.
