Ce, I believe you have the werewithal and the intellect to read and understand Passionate Marriage. Get thee to the nearest library and check out a copy. Better yet, purchase one. It starts with you. If you take the advice in the book and take action, your W (and any female within physical range, as well as the ones on this BB) will see a new man. I'm rootin' for ya.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"