One problem I see with this philosophy is something that BF enlightened me about and I have seen a LOT of evidence for. Many wives will follow (or "mirror" as BF calls it) their husbands. So a strong, leading, masculine H will engender a confident, but feminine W (hence the word mirror, same thing just a different angle). While an overly-detached, or placating, or overly demanding H will create a sense of confusion in the W often leading to unconscious withdrawal. I may be screwing up some of the details, but the main picture is clear. Anyway, I have seen that in action MANY times.
I think it is true that the H has to let the W figure things out on her own, but that doesn't mean he just sits back and does nothing. I'm still unclear about how much leading is too much and how much is too little, but doing no leading will not help at all.
IMHO
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"