GEL, You are a blessing and thanks for the honest response. Your last two paragraphs are the ones that really clicked with me.
My W is reading SSM, thankfully. So I am trying to be patient and see what happens out of that.
I don't think her profile quite fits yours though. She was HD and then had kids and became LD. I am not sure if it is because of kids, hormones, age, birth control pills (although she stopped taking them 5 years ago) or me. But ultimately, I am hoping to find some hope on this board from someone who is similar in profile and can tell me that yes, it is possible to go from LD to HD again.
But again, your last two paragraphs give me some clue into shy personalities. Maybe she doesn't want to feel cheap but is interested in expanding our sexuality and it just takes time.
I think we are on the right track, but if not...I am a
