GH my H is not in that place where he can look at what was going on in our M prior to my A and he is not one to go searching for it. I do not dare discuss it. Maybe I should. Maybe, I don't even know what it was, but it definetly involved lonliness, including feeling lonely when we were actually in the same room together, and fear that because of his new job I would be alone the majority of the time. Anyways that's not actually what I want to focus on. My point is that while I know better than to compare how my feelings before my A with his feelings following it, there is a fear in me that he won't do the work that is required. I just need to be patient I guess, and realize that things need to happen in a certain order. When did your W have her A? When did you decide to start considering your role in the breakdown of your M? (Not her A, that was her poor decision).
