Piper, you didn't upset me. I just wanted to give you some idea of what "we" the betrayed people feel. Give your H some credit for even trying to make things work. It is the most devastating situation to get ever go through. He is going to go through an emotional roller coaster and you need to be there to support him. He will feel anger and resentment towards you. Be there to hold him and smile at him or to just touch him tenderly to let him know you feel his sorrow and that you are there beside him. You need to be the strong one for the both of you. Don't be too critical for his asking about the A. Show him that you can be honest with your answers.
The hard part is for him to recover from the trust that was broken. He is probably wondering how he could ever trust you again. Understand that his world has been shaken to such an extreme that too many emotions may be blinding him. He may not act the way you want him to act or he may ask questions sarcastically.....it's all because he is hurt. He may even be thinking if you are worth his loyalty.
