Wow, that may have beem my longest ever. Piper, I tried in that post to just express how I felt, without filtering much (obviously). I want to be more clear about the intimacy thing.
While my W has said she felt attacked by me, as you say you do by your H, she never equated it to our intimacy issues. To me, when she would pull away, or doesn't want to be intimate, especially when we have recently talked about OM or the affair, it's at best because she's still not feeling connected to me, and at worst, because she still has feelings for him. I would have never guessed that she may just be feeling attacked and therefore it has not much to do with either her overall feelings for me OR him. Wow.
