My theory of it being a result of the math, and specifically the spatial awareness would be blown out immediately by your W.
However, you know I think your W is highly sexually receptive, just repressed. You know when you behave appropriately, so does she. A womans HD/LD is not in absence to her perception of her H. Its because of it. If its repressed, then its there, its just held back. She is afraid of it. This is different then a woman who doesnt even know its there, which is not at all uncommon. This is bewildering to all men, and even some women. My experience says these women are not math inclined.
If a man is unwilling to make steps to change his Wifes perception of him, he will have NO STATUS QUO CHANGE. If a woman wants to have a succesful M, it is her job to control her perspective.
Its pretty obvious why these women are so hot for their H's. Thats why I like hearing about their exchanges so much, so I can see what a alpha male looks like. Other then looking in the mirror. LOL. sheesh I kill me.
My thinking on the math part of it is exactly what Hap mentioned. If a woman has a bit more testosterone then it would bump her up in her overall sexuallity, but also bump her up in her competitive drive. The tougher/stubborn/forceful she is, the more her H will have to be self assured. Guys ditch these women because they are worn out, or develop that feeling that she wont 'act like a woman'. His perception of his manliness is not being validated, by the appropriate responsiveness of her, or he cant pass the tests, so he finds a female who does or lets him.
Self assured appears to other people when you have immovable boundaries. when your boundaries fluctuate, you appear placating. Even if your boundaries are not in her best interest, as long as you arent placating or supplicating she will continue to have desire.
Making a decision to change a boundary, and making that decisions for your own reasons, looks entirely different to a female then aquiescence. It may be what they want, it very likely is a true need, but when done out of supplication, its going to cause a reaction in her that makes the man completely bewildered as too why she is suddenly icked out by him. He just did what she wanted....and now he is being punished.
Its not punishment for giving her what she needs. Its for doing it in a supplicating fashion.
This IMO is why physically abusive and emotionally abusive men hold there women for so long. He is still demonstrating MALENESS. Strong assertive etc. The slow drain on her LB, from lack of taking care of her needs takes a lot longer then flipping off her desire switch with placating and supplicating.
Wow thats a tangent.
One of the advantages that the women have on the BB learning from each other, is that it is word/logic based. Thats their forte. They communicate with each other so much differently.
One recent example was when Cine and Corri where talking, then Lifer and Martelo? were commenting about looks, and shoes, and makeup on Cine's thread, and suggesting, that the women not look for a male opinion about that.
Yeah those were the words Corri used, and tried to convey certain feelings, but thats not at all what the ladies where actually talking about.
There was another new poster recently a LDM, and his situation was so rife with his misunderstanding of female code...
It was exactly this phenomonon that I was wondering about with Deida. Unless you can relate it to an experience or feeling in your life, its hard for many guys to 'picture'.
Chromo, You learned a lot when you were able to observe it, visually, by looking at certain IRL situations, or seeing pictures.
If a woman wants to assist her H to change, she is going to have to communicate with him in a way that 'shows him' a picture of what it looks like. That means a dramatic departure from the way she is used to and likes to communicate.
