I should add here that a good part of current theory/analysis of the issue is due to my H's current behavior. I can't come up with exactly the right word for the emotional state that he is conveying but perhaps "chagrined" would be close. It's like he has finally realized how easy it is to make me happy and he regrets that he didn't realize it earlier. Sort of like the harassed mother who ignores and pushes away and yells at a child and then realizes that the child just wanted a few minutes of attention for a valid reason. That is why I am pretty confident that we will continue successfully.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
