Lou, I'm not sure if my H would read the forum. I have many times thought about cut and pasting sections to e-mail to him, but then I think that's a bit selective like I'm editing what I want him to know about. He knows I come here but he's never shown any interest in looking (at least not as far as I know).

Mojo, I'm so happy for you It's amazing really that such a simple solution can work. I can count 3 successes for scheduled sex from this board just off the top of my head, there's you, HappyGiant and Slipperysammy.

I think you are right though there's so much other work that has gone into the R before you got to the place where you could just lay a demand on the table and make it clear it was a deal-breaker.

Is your H a 4? Just wondering 'cos mine definitely is and I'm not sure I can imagine the romantic 4 type going for the idea of scheduling sex. On the other hand maybe I should just schedule it without bothering to tell him. I always initiate anyway so I could just think to myself, on Saturdays and Thursdays I'll jump his bones. But hang on that's not really the issue. It's the fact I do always initiate that bugs me. The reason we can go 2 or 3 weeks with nothing is because I keep holding out waiting for him to initiate. Then eventually I'll crack, and all is fine, but for the feeling of resentment that it had to be me yet again, and the feeling of not being desirable.

Anyhoo - got the old meat and two veg just the other night so not feeling to down about things just now

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong