Thanks for dropping by with the words of encouragement. I hope you get the landscape "fix" you need- LOL.
Hap- Hang in there sister. Remember even Jimmy Carter lusted in his heart- LOL.
UPDATE:
Things continue to go remarkably well in Mojoland. It seems to be the case that "Do Mojo" is finally written in permanent marker on my H's "To Do" list. Yes, I do get an eensy-beensy feeling that something is being checked off a list when my H initiates on our bi-weekly schedule but I think we've both grown enough over the last couple years to make it not such a big deal. It's more like he's checking something like "Bake Mojo a cake and then eat it with her." off his list rather than something like "Take Mojo's trash to the curb."- LOL. I think this is partially due to my H's increased confidence in his cake baking skills and partially due to my increased confidence in believing that I damn well deserve some cake tempered by my acknowledgement that perhaps I'm a bit greedy for cake and haven't always acted in my own best interest in my pursuit of cakey goodness.
Anyway, getting it regular and predictable twice a week appears to have completely cured me of my semi-manic sexual obsession which kept me posting here like a semi-maniac . I wish I could figure out what I finally did right so I could be more helpful to you guys on the BB who are still struggling. The simplistic explanation would be that I finally actually straight-out suggested that I would be willing to divorce my H over this issue but I don't think that doing that would have worked for me two years ago. One thing that occurs to me is that though it is true that HD folk look for emotional connection through sex, this important fact may be largely irrelevant or counter-productive to resolving the problem of a SSM. Transferring a problem from the practical, physical, tangible mode into an emotional, non-quantifiable, ever-changing mode makes it more difficult to solve. I mean the problem "We aren't having sex very often" is easier to solve than the problems "I don't feel much sexual desire" and the problem " I don't feel loved when we don't have sex.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
. I wish I could figure out what I finally did right so I could be more helpful to you guys on the BB who are still struggling. The simplistic explanation would be that I finally actually straight-out suggested that I would be willing to divorce my H over this issue but I don't think that doing that would have worked for me two years ago. One thing that occurs to me is that though it is true that HD folk look for emotional connection through sex, this important fact may be largely irrelevant or counter-productive to resolving the problem of a SSM. Transferring a problem from the practical, physical, tangible mode into an emotional, non-quantifiable, ever-changing mode makes it more difficult to solve. I mean the problem "We aren't having sex very often" is easier to solve than the problems "I don't feel much sexual desire" and the problem " I don't feel loved when we don't have sex.". 