I read somewhere that the mistake we, as a society, make is by putting so much emphasis on the permanence of marriage rather than on the process of being married. It kind of fits with what you are saying flip. We become so infatuated with the idea of permanence once we get married that we forget about the process of staying married and building those relationships. I guess the author believes we have a false security built up. It's kind of like believing that you must be safe because you are at home but you leave all the doors and windows open! If society put emphasis on the process of M versus the permanence than maybe relationships would be better for all. the idea that "this is forever no matter what" actually may endanger our relationships and therefore invites situations that violate trust. I hope that made some sense?If not, it's the best that I can do!
