This is my first thread. It's been a little over 2 months since I discovered about the OW. And it's been the longest and most difficult time of my life needless to say. We've been seeing a counselor immediately after everything came out and things seemed to have been progressing in the right way although he has yet to completely break off the relationship because of emotions that are involved with this OM. On the fourth of July, I came to a turning point where after he stood me up to spend time with the OW, I told him I wanted him out of the house. My H told me to give him a week and that he wouldn't see her for that time. Since then, he would see her with other friends to "take care of loose ends." It was usually a Sunday. He was coming home everyday and earlier than usual. I was happy for the next 3 weeks because he was coming home. We didn't bring up about the EMA because we wanted to focus on "us." Although he was coming home all this time he wasn't being as affectionate like the previous weeks. I kept on showing my affection, but nothing was reciprocated. When I asked him if anything was wrong, he said it was stress; from work as well as the home situation. Then out of the blue he told me yesterday that he signed a 6 month lease to rent a room because he felt like he was under house arrest. I don't know where that came from. He moved a few of his stuff out and slept there. Today was my last day of vacation before I head back to work tomorrow. I texted him in the am asking if he'd be over today to spend family time before I go back to work. When he finally responded, he said he had things to do. I was crushed, especially because we have 2 young children (6 &4). I'm at a loss and am tempted to call or text him to find out what lead him to feel that way. He never said anything to me and in our last conversation about wheather or not he should move out, he gave me a list of reasons why he didn't want to. Any advice? I know I need to focus on myself, taking care of my health, mind and soul but it is very difficult when I have so many questions and he doesn't want to talk about it. When do I start working on trying to trust him or forgive him when he hasn't even ended the relationship? At what point does that come into play?
