I have been browsing this site for almost 2 months now but have never posted. Then I came accross your stitch and my heart goes out to you. My husband is currently in Iraq right now. He will be coming back in September though. I won't go in to too much detail other than to say at the end of May we hit a serious crisis and almost threw away 8 years of marriage. Not sure if he was going through a MLC but it seemed like a good description. After reading both books Divorce remedy and Divorce buster and reading the post almost daily I was able to start getting a handle on things. His problem was he is a very attractive man but growing up his brother got all of the attention. While in Iraq he was hit on alot by other females and finally realized he is good looking. Not to mention I was moody as hell when he started telling me about possible rumors going around about him and other women. My husband is a natural flirt, and he loves attention. I don't think he cheated cause he is high ranking and that would be his career but it did make him think he could do better than me. Long story short, we almost divorced over stupid crap. Your situation is a bit different than mine. First off, what's his (your husband's)rank? The army does still frown on adultry and you may be able to talk to his chain of command. Second, go and see the Chaplain who will be deploying with him. My husband's chaplain had alot to do with us staying together, he helped out so much. Most of the Chaplains think divorce is not an option nor is adultry. You at least need to go to the Chaplain on your own first and explain the situation to him or her. Gte there advice o how to proceed. They are not only counselor's they also know all of the Army rules and regulations. Save the chain of command as a last ditch effort cause it could get him into trouble.
Another thing, after he leaves you might want to take advantage of the couselor's on post. Get the two books I spoke about earlier too. As far as the other woman, I seriously doubt she will wait on him to return. She might like it at first but she will soon grow bored with him because he is out of the picture and she will want someone she can get her claws into now.
Your husband is probably going to change alot while he is over there, be prepared, he might not be the same person when he gets back. Our chaplain told me that the guys over there really start thinking about there lives and what they want etc. My husband did in the negative sense but hopefully yours will do it in the positive sense.
Definately get a life while he's gone! If he sees or hears a "new" you, someone fun and happy and mysterious it's definately going to keep him on his toes and get him very curious about who this new person is. I wish you the best. Just try and hang in there ok. See the chaplain and listen to his advice. If you need me just post back and I'll be looking at the daily post.
