Mine is a unique situation...my husband is leaving for Iraq in less than a week and I am struggling with his recent infidelity. We found out that he had orders to leave about 2 1/2 months ago, and 6 weeks ago I found out that he has been seeing someone else. It was a short but very intense emotional and physical affair. She says that she is in love with him. I don't believe that he has stopped communication with her, although I have asked him to tell her that it is over. I have intercepted emails and text messages from her, yet he says that he wants to be with me...that he wants to come home to our family. I am left feeling hurt and confused and running out of precious time to spend with him before he leaves. We have some great days together, spending time alone together (our sex life has never been as active), with our children and traveling to see family. Then I will find an email or a text message from her and it ruins any good feelings that have grown between us and I am filled with jealousy. I know that he will have unrestricted access to her while he is gone through email and IM as we have bought a laptop for him to take with, so I won't know if he is continuing a relationship with her. I am already facing a year and a half of uncertainty, it will be hard enough not having him here and worrying about his safety, let alone dealing with this. How can I keep my sanity and my marriage together??
