I loved his books.... I mean, reading the excerpt from the web site, how could you NOT love his stuff. He's fantastic, fabulous, exciting, stimulating. I think everyone who reads Schnarch loves him, whether the reader is male or female. Putting his ideas into practice with a real, live partner is something else again.
Most of us regular posters on this site have read EVERY relationship book under the sun, but reading only takes you so far. Many have been/are in therapy, which can be immensely helpful, too. You have to do a LOT of work on yourself, cultivate humility so you can see your own part in the relationship dynamics, rmake yourself vulnerable to your partner, rid yourself of bad/destructive relationship habits (anger, nagging, pouting, passive/aggressive behavior, criticism, micromanaging, controlling, and many others), recognize what your partner is willing and not willing to do, be prepared to deliver and stick to boundaries, and possibly an ultimatum. You have to recognize that you cannot change another person. An intimate relationship is Spiritual Boot Camp... at least it has always been that for me.
Today is my fourth anniversary of meeting my bf. Many of the people here have been struggling with sex-starved marriages for DECADES. A sobering thought, eh?
Re your question: do you have the idea that a man might be more open to Schnarch's ideas and a woman more resistant? Or vice versa?
