Alright I'll get to the advice given in a minute! First let me tell you . . . My H called lastnight and was a TOTAL @$$hole! GRR! Ok . . . so he called at 11:00PM. He was in a horrible mood. He says things like, "I'm sorry that I don't feel like having a long convo with you at 11 at night." I said, "No I don't care . . . I'm ready for bed too."
and (this one REALLY pi$$ed me off) "I'd talk to you during the day but then my life would be miserable because of her." . . . SO in other words. I have to be OK with the fact that they are living together and sleeping together and such . . . but he can't talk to me AT ALL???? WTF??????????????????????????????????
He said she had been keeping her mouth shut more, they'd been getting along better. It hadden't been too bad lately. I said something to him about, "You don't have to come back to me if you don't want to you know?!?" He said, "I know. Don't you worry about her and stuff."
OH and he also got angry and said, "Don't act like I'm trying to ignore you." (this was following his comment about talking to me during the day.)
I am soooo frustraighted with him. I just want to tell him to forget the whole thing. I just want to tell him not to bother coming back. It's not fair that he'll cater around her now but is TOTALLY inconsiderate of my feelings.
I don't know if he's changed his mind again . . . or if he is trying to keep us both balanced or what. I am angry. I was angry lastnight too . . but I didn't say anything.
I don't plan on calling him . . . I doubt he'll call me under his own power. . He doesn't seem to care enough.
Tell me what you all think!!!!
Now then . .
Quote: Correct me if I am wrong.
Your H left for OW
You H smokes pot and pop diet pills and ritalin (which is actually speed. it makes hyper kids calm down b/c their brains work opposite to chemicals)
You have some anger. You are mad at your hubby and your past (mom)
Your daughter's health concerns you....as it should.
My suggestion, assuming I have read your situation correctly, take care of yourself and your child.
You got it right Jokerman! I think that he had to quit the drugs (I don't even know how often he did them . . . I know that he would occassionally have a story about one involving the diet pills or the ritalin.) when he started for Schneider . . . I know they drug test . . and cops can pull truckers over AT ANY TIME FOR ANY REASON. and sometimes they'll give a tox screen. He's not even allowed to go to a bar for the night while he is out in the truck. It was an issue last year though.
Quote: You cannot make this decision for him.
I know. I just wish he would make a decision and STICK WITH IT. One way or another. I'm sick of the yo-yo games.
Holly06 - Good to know! Thanks
kml - Thanks for the advice. I won't pursue him anymore. If he keeps calling in a bad mood though . . . I may just tell him to stuff it.
I mean he could be in a bad mood because he wants the sitch straightened out. I know he said he had a bad day "at work" yesterday. I just keep spectulating as to what is in his head . . and it gets me no where. It's hard for me not to care.
I still feel like I am losing a lot if I lose my marriage. Any thoughts?
