Quote: I know you all tell me not to let him affect my life but his choices do. I mean either he's going to file for the D and we will do that or he's not. It's to totally different courses of action. I mean really. Life isn't the same either way.
Emily, I don't think you understand what people have been saying to you or you are resisting it.
You need to take care of yourself whether you are with him or not, you need to develop yourself as a person whether you are with him or not, you need to be able to support yourself and your children whether you are with him or not. You need to work on yourself so you are never in this position again whether you are with him or not.
You can take care of the above matters if he files for divorce, goes back to whatsername, or starts to show you he is going to be a real man. If he doesn't want the new and improved Emily, then his loss. If he does, then let him show that he does. Either way, there needs to be a new and improved Emily and this is what I mean by not letting him control your life. He can take it (on your terms) or leave it.
