Emily.... geez, two days ago this guy was a wife beating, digital camera stealing, adulterous drug addict.
Remember?
You HAVE to stop letting him dictate your life. Here's what you do. You say "I am glad we talked, Kevin, but I just don't know how I feel."
The end.
Because, first of all... it's the truth.
Second of all, his response will tell you how serious he is about you. If he truly wants to make amends, he will accept that and continue to show you that he is sincere. If he get pissy about you asserting yourself, well, then, frankly... he's no big loss.
Right now he thinks he can lie to you, steal from you, cheat on you, and fail to support his daughters... and you will take him back every single time he wakes up in a nice mood. So now OW is bothering him? This guy was gonna marry her last week. Give me a break, you really want to be part of his crazy again?
The only way he will ever respect you and take your marriage seriously is if you put your foot down and say "No more, not right now." It doesn't mean things can't work out. It just means that you are making the decision, not him. You need to call the shots, Emily. Because right now... he devalues you so much, that if you take him back right away, NOTHING will stop him from doing this again. And again. And again. Like he has all summer long.
Just tell him the truth. Tell him you have no reason to believe him right now and you need time. Then leave it alone, see what happens, and FOCUS ON YOU.
