I'm Still Trying!

[Sandy_wants_to_try]

Emily,
That sounds great! But I still think its too soon.

I think you have to prepare yourself for what happens if/when he flip-flops again? I Mean, yes we could be looking at another Jokerman sitch, but what if he still treats you like S*** when he gets there?

I would just respond everything he says with something like "Do whatever you feel the need to do", but at the same time protect myself and my kids.
I would not be comfortable with him coming back home all of a sudden. I would want him to start slowly again... to make sure he means what he says.
I would let him see kids at specific times for a specific number of hours, just until you're sure this isn't all temporary. I'd get totally out of his way. No R talk. If he brings it up I'd probably say that right now, I'm not ready to talk about it but could we talk about it in a week or so. (That way you don't backslide without seeing what's going on with him).

I would not let it get into an R right away - well actually I wouldn't even be thinking of that right now...

But, more importantly. Please, please, please don't get your expectations up... don't go on that high again that is sooo high, you come crashing down. Try to maintain a neutral position.