Hi Emily, this is my first post here, but I have been following your situation from the beginning. You have been getting excellent advice throught your ordeal. Here's mine:
Most of the people here have been encouraging you to use your recent unfortunate experiences with your husband to grow yourself as a person. People tell you to get a life and realize that you cannot control him or his actions.
Please do not forget this that now that his wind seems to be blowing in another direction. I know you say you love him, but is he really the kind of person you want to be married to? He's treated you very poorly and appears to be an immature selfish baby.
I suggest create some high standards for yourself and do not allow him back unless he can be the kind of man you deserve. Do not be happy to get crumbs from him. He needs to prove to you that his is worthy of you, I can't imagine haveing two small children, one of whom is sick, with a husband who is emotionally a 15 year old that is easily distracted with shiney objects.
The goal for you is to be a happy healthy person and if you can do that with him, great, but if not, well your life will be great too. I suggest you work on becoming more independent, find some hobbys, keep yourself busy and make him win you back. That is right, win you back. You have no guarantees he won't have yet another change of heart in a week and you will be back here, distraught. In order to protect yourself from being a victim of his indecision, you must work on learning to focus on yourself and making yourself happy.
I highly recommend reading "Why Men Love Bitches" it really explains the purpose of GAL. I know you can do it.
