Emily,
I had to come clean with my mom about my feelings and asked her for some patience around me for a little while.
At the time, I asked her to understand that I won't always be this sensitive and nervous, but that for the moment I couldn't control certain feelings. I asked her to let me get through it and that she just be there to support me for now. I told her that later on, in a few weeks I'd be able to handle confrontation about certain actions but just not right now. Could she hold on to some opinions and feeling for a little while?
She completely backed off. She understood completely.
You know, this hurts them (our moms) too and sometimes, with their all knowing wisdom , they do and say things in a wrong way, but with very good intentions. They kind of blame themselves for letting this happen too.

Tell her you need some time (just a month or two) and ask for her patience during that time in a very calm tone. She'll get it.

May it be eternal while it lasts. My sitch Me: 36 H:34 M: 5 years Bomb: 03/14/06