Thanks guys. I don't know about nirvana but things are better. We'll see if they progress from here. I too feel $hitty about being guarded, etc, but that's what being cheated on will do to your outlook. I am trying to get past that and am relativly successful but I have my bad days like everyone else.
Keep on keepin' on. You are an inspiration to me with your strength and perseverance. If you could only step outside of yourself and look down upon yourself, you would see what the rest of us see: PROGRESS.
Take pride in youR willingness and ability to be the mortar of your M and the master mason in the great re-building job you are doing with your patience, skill, forgiveness, mercy, grace, strength and love.
Keep it up. The final lap is getting closet by the day with each positive interaction, my friend. Thank you for sharing.