GH, I just read your post re: your M history. I think your W is still very angry about feeling abandoned by you earlier as you pushed for your hoped for career. It takes time to change that perspective. I know my W feels I emotionally abandoned her but what she wants from me is really unrealistic to ask of anyone. Certainly part of it is her unrealistic demands on me but it is also my approach that needs work too. So, back to you, maybe in your sitch putting your W first now is the way to go. That would be a big 180. She needs to know that you ARE there this time and plan to stay there. DB can be pretty exciting as we find out new ways of approaching our M's and life in general! No matter how it all turns out I think we will each be better people.
