Ok, CM, I hear you but I guess I see it like this. For YEARS now, even before me, my W has subjugated her own desires and her wants for other people, usually her family. She has ALWAYS done that in our life. The boob job thing HAS come up before, long before the affair but money was always the issue. It is not so much now. Please don't think this is a new thing. In any event, the fact that she is FINALLY expressing her desires TO ME, is a good thing in my book considering she never trusted me to even give a damn what she wanted before.
When she finally figured out what she wanted, she got it somewhere else because either she didn't want it from me, or she figured she'd tried to get it and failed. Looking back, I can see how she tried, but it was VERY weak and not nearly the direct approach she is using now.
CM, call me crazy but I actually think it's GREAT that she's opening up to me. In any event, and I want to clarify something which I will put in bold type so it stands out, my W may not work, but her "income" is a large part of our standard of living. That is a topic for another day (her parents) but I don't really want to get into it now, so she doesn't need my "permission" to get something done to herself and a couple months ago, she likely would not have even asked let alone sought some kind of permission.
On the "showing the sexier body" thing to me, her husband, she is TERRIBLY self conscious and doesn't like to wear shorts, let alone "show off" anything to anyone, including me or, according to her, OM during the affair. She never said she didn't want to "share" with me, just that her motivation was not my happiness OR anyone else, it was her desire to feel better about her body.
Is she telling the truth? Who knows. I think so but this, like many other things, is not really something I am hung up on.
