I tried. Along with damn near EVERYTHING else bad that she brings up when she's had too much to drink, she almost COMPLETELY denied saying that the next day. I tried every way I could think of to talk about it, and short of actually trying to have her committed, I don't think I can make this happen right now. I'm working on it though.
I KNOW I needed to jump on this, but I also knew she would take the approach the next day that she did. It's a terrible pattern she has and I don't think she will break out of it until she either decides to or hits total rock bottom. I have had a fair amount of experience with friends and family with addiction problems and if my W is alcoholic, her REAL admission that she wants help will have to come when she's not drinking because along with the "I want to run away from the world, want to end our marriage tonight, don't love you at all, want to introduce OM to the kids, etc, etc, etc, she denies it the next day and blames it on her "mood" rather than the drinking. That's STARTING to change as she's slowly admitting that she has issues and drinking is one of the big ones. Right now, she stops short of getting help for them, but I THINK that's the next thing.
Right now she's NOT willing to even see a doctor about other health issues and when I brought up the rehab thing, she completely ignored me, saying again "I know what I have to do".
I do think she's close. She IS starting to discuss her drinking, such as it is, in the daytime, referring to her desire to find another way to sleep (she claims her drinking allows her to fall asleep, something that she can't do without...excuse, probably, but there seems to be some truth to it, at least the sleep issues anyway). I says she wants to cut back a LOT but is afraid. I KNOW she is opening the door for me to help her but if I try to force my way in more than she's letting me, she'll close up again. I have seen it before and I don't want that to happen.
