GH, I think your W may also be grieving the OM. To remain in your M she has now given up that fantasy world that the OM represented. It's gone. That hurts. The lack of sex also indicates (in my uninformed opinion) that grief. Yes, she needs to be happy and you can't make her so, you are right. All you can do is trust that she will make good decisions this time. I'm not at a point in my sitch where I have to deal with this kind of decision but hopefully one day I will be and you will be my role model (only if you do well, of course, otherwise you'll serve as a horrible warning) !
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