CM, your transformation into the woman you are today from who you were when you first started here is one of the most heartwarming things I have witnessed in my 9 months on this board. I truly appreciate your imput and encourage more whenever you feel the desire.
As for her making a "sure" choice, I think she really has but is unsure of what to do now to ensure her own happiness in our marriage, or for that matter, that it's even up to her to do that, not unlike you used to be unsure...and still are.
I truly appreciate your support and kind words. I don't think I am a doormat but that could just be because I am not located near enough to a door, lol. Seriously, I don't worry much about that. I am being true to myself and that's all I can ask for.
