It's not really that my W doesn't want to talk, it's that I seem to either allow the convos to go badly or can't seem to keep from getting defensive, especially when I am emotional to begin with. We actually DO talk from time to time and she has said she's open to talking whenever but I can't seem to get the hang of this "direct" stuff, lol.
It's my fear that usually makes things bad for me/us, not really her reaction. This time, my fear may have shown me the way, I don't know. What I do know is that I am realizing that if I get out of my own way, things usually go better for me no matter what she does or does not do.
