Hi GH, I understand your headspace right now. It's hard to do nothing but it's hard not to do nothing, if that makes sense!You don't want to rock the boat if things are going OK but if they aren't you want to interecede, but don't know what to do. It's hard not to get into negative headspace. I'm wondering what would be wrong with having a R talk with your wife and call it a "check in". You can tell her you feel some positive stuff is happening (hooray!) but you're feeling frustrated/ impatient etc. but you are willing to carry on. I somehow feel like you feel as though you are being held hostage by her and can't put forward any of your stuff in case something "bad" happens. Maybe just check in without expectation and you've at least shared how you are feeling. Again, as we all know, she has betrayed you and torn your heart out, you deserve a little patience too in return. Re the ML stuff, are there things she can do that are short of intercourse that would please you and she would be OK with? I mean would a lousy h***job kill her??? I know that may seem a little short of your ultimate romantic goal but you got to start somewhere. Can you two talk about such things? Anyway, just some thoughts that may or may not apply, you decide.
