Thanks for the encouragement. I THINK I am doing ok but certainly I am treading on dangerous ice because things are almost TOO normal, i.e. like my old marriage. I just have to have faith that MY changes are still in effect even though I don't constantly think about them anymore.
Sometimes I feel like aside from the lack of sex, and Mama, I agree, the intimacy in other ways IS creeping in (I don't say BACK in because I truly don't think it was ever there to any real extent), things are as good as they've ever been. The real problem is that my W is a MASTER at covering up her feelings and she'll bury something until it's too late to have any kind of constructive conversation about it. I am just afraid that my perception of things does not match hers in terms of how well things are going.
I keep seeing all these people who say their spouse "tried" (not really) and then bailed again when the "new marriage" didn't live up to their silent expectations. I guess that could happen in my case but it's a risk I have to take because I truly believe that the course I am on is the right one, based on what I know about my "old" marriage, what I have learned about myself, and what I now know about my W's needs, desires and love languages.
Thanks again for the encouragement. Sorry I am not around as much but like I said, it's really more due to work reasons than not wanting to post.
