Nine Months and loosing ground

[missingwifey]

Thank you for stopping by my curb MonicaP. I believe you are absolutely correct that she is "addicted". Like you said, there really isn't anything we can do until they hit rock bottom. Being with my kids is my salvation. I so admire and respect the position you have taken with your H. Patience is certainly something that we can't have a shortage of being in the positions we are in.

You talked about keeping your son out of the middle it. Well, her addiction has created a new problem that is putting S9 directly in the middle of the sh*% storm.
At least 4 times my W has promised S9 that he would no longer have to see or be around OM. S9 delikes OM (to put it mildly). I do not encourage S9 to dislike OM...he just does. His mother has not kept this promise, not even for one day. Yesterday, S9 had had enough and wouldn't get out of bed. OM threatened to take his football away if he didn't get up....obviously doesn't know S9. S9 told him "to take the football". W came back in S9's room and S9 said "you promised I wouldn't have to see OM anymore. I don't like him". OM was within an earshot and heard this and W knew it. She grabbed S9 and spanked him saying (of all things) that S9 was "selfish".

When W dropped off the kids to me to go to her procedure. W was in tears and S9 would even talk. W told me part of the story and said that S9 needed to move in with me. I said nothing. All I could think to say to S9 is that "Mommy was having a bad day and that she Loves you very much". I don't know what to do to protect S9. I certainly don't want to force him to be around OM. I could really use any advice on how to help S9 deal with this.